In a society where we’ve become all about “keeping up with
the Kardashians” and the “American dream” we’ve lost touch with what matters
most. Our daily lives are run by the urgent, rather than the important. And we
so often waste our time trying to attain things that aren’t meant to be ours.
We want to have what “they” have. We begin to miss out on all that we’ve been given, everything
we are truly blessed with.
Our opportunity to truly enjoy life as Jesus spoke of, has
been stolen from us. I love the way the Amplified version words what He said:
comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have
and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).”
John 10:10 AMP
Who is this thief? Comparison. (The thief is the enemy, this
is simply one of his many mechanisms.) When I heard this quote by Theodore
Roosevelt, something inside of me clicked: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” So
many of us fall victim to this. I know I for one, definitely do. I always look
to what others have, whether it be my closest friends, a TV reality show, or an
advertisement that looks so appealing. The grass isn’t always greener. We
should not compare our lives to others, because we truly have no idea what
their journey is all about.
Comparison kills. It can creep into our every thought, more
often than not—it is very subtle. We don’t realize what we are succumbing to.
“We do not dare to
classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they
measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they
are not wise.” 2 Corinthians 10:12 AMP
"For if any person thinks himself to be somebody [too important to condescend to shoulder another's load] when he is nobody [of superiority except in his own estimation], he deceived and deludes and cheats himself. But let every person carefully scrutinize and examine and test his own conduct and his own work. He can then have the personal satisfaction and joy of doing something commendable [in itself alone] without [resorting to] boastful comparison with his neighbor." Galatians 6:3-4 AMP
As it is written in these two passages, it is not wise and it is not something we should resort to. There is only One who we should compare our trials with. That comparison should always lead to encouragement.
“Just think of Him Who
endured from sinners such grievous opposition and bitter hostility against
Himself [reckon up and consider it all in comparison with your trials], so that
you may not grow weary or exhausted, losing heart and relaxing and fainting in
your minds.” Hebrew 12:3 AMP
So if this comparison game is robbing us, what is it that
will restore this joy that has been stolen? I believe “thanksgiving” will. Not the turkey, potatoes, parade, and
football kind of Thanksgiving, but the daily act of giving thanks for what we
have and truly appreciating our lives. The path of gratitude will lead us to
the overflowing kind of abundance that Jesus is talking about. My life truly is
full, it is overflowing… but I fail to realize this because my mind is stuck on
what we don’t have, what we need money for, or worrying about tomorrow. I don’t
want this abundance to be stolen from me. I want to truly enjoy my life.
For some, this practice of gratitude comes more natural than
for others. I fall on the side of needing some help. The guilt I feel because
of that fact alone could lead me to stop dead in my tracks, or I can stop for a
moment, address the need to change, and take the initiative to do it. It takes
effort. I’ve heard it said, “If you change nothing, nothing will change.” I had
to literally post a note in my bathroom that says, “Find something to be
grateful for today.” Since
embarking on this journey of giving thanks, I’m finding a whole new meaning to
the age-old phrase, “Count your blessings.” They undeniably will outnumber your
So I encourage you to start this journey with your loved ones. Take the opportunity to truly give thanks for
everyone and everything you have in your life. Be creative. Start a new
tradition. Make a “thankful tree” with your kids, take time around the dinner
table to express thanks, or start to post your blessings around the house.
Start the practice of gratitude now.
Gratitude turns what we have into enough. And there is
always, always, always something to be thankful for.
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